Your Journey

Caution, windy roads ahead.

When I was a child I always wished I was older so I could get to do all the cool things life had to offer like go to homecoming, prom, date, attend college and travel. While trying to tap into my past and reminisce, I realized that I had spent majority of my life wishing I was somewhere else than where I was in life. I literally wanted to fast forward to the good parts. Typical adolescent behavior, but now that I am 24 (almost 25) I don’t really feel that way anymore.

I understand the importance of my journey in life. What do I mean by journey? Everything, the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful. To be quite honest, the term journey intimidated me.
Like what was I suppose to do? Sit and twiddle my thumbs and let my journey happen to me? OR pull a Micheal Scott when he declared bankruptcy and say “I DECLARE THIS MY JOURNEY!”
Michael Scott from the office declaring bankruptcy | Your Journey

I have done both and found out it’s neither of the two.

According to Eckhart Tolle
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” 
Eckhart had the right idea.
You’re going to have to work to create the reality you want and create your own path. Just waiting for life to happen to you is not the way to do it. You’re going to have to be an active participant in YOUR life. I have spent so much time just waiting when I should have been working for my reality. It isn’t going to be all sunshine and rainbows but keep working at it. When you put in that work, that’s when the magic happens. It may not happen immediately or how you imagined it but when it happens…
Your Journey | Image of sparkler

Take me for example, I had a plan for myself after graduate school. I would get an amazing job, makes a nice amount of money and be content with life because that is what I thought my happiness would equate to. As you can see none of that happened, AT ALL. When that didn’t happen it kind of sent me on a downward spiral, I was sad, frustrated and overall annoyed. Why hadn’t my plans worked out? Was it something I did? Is it me? Am I not good enough? etc.

Then I started comparing my journey to others around me, which is the worst possible thing you can do. My circumstances at the time really took a tole on me, so feeling tired and defeated I sat and waited, going through all the motions with no emotion, no passion, nothing. When I finally woke up I realized that the reality I had planned for myself wasn’t what the universe had in store for me. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t, and in my case it didn’t!  So, what my present moment had contained, I decided to accepted it as if I had chosen it, and I worked with it! This was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

And that’s okay! That’s part of the journey. And even though it was a tough time for me, there was a lesson in all of this and that was to stop putting so much pressure on myself and striving for perfection, because it doesn’t exist. You spend your whole life trying to live up to this model but it’s not even real it’s just a distorted idea of a reality we all make up.

My current circumstances may not be dramatically different but my mindset is and that makes all the difference. 

Approach your journey with an open mind and do not compare your journey to others. The differences in our journey is what make us and them (our journey) special. 

So, stop and get to work, because there is something magical upon the horizon for you. 

Truthfully Yours, Dahlia