Caution, windy roads ahead.
I have done both and found out it’s neither of the two.
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”
Take me for example, I had a plan for myself after graduate school. I would get an amazing job, makes a nice amount of money and be content with life because that is what I thought my happiness would equate to. As you can see none of that happened, AT ALL. When that didn’t happen it kind of sent me on a downward spiral, I was sad, frustrated and overall annoyed. Why hadn’t my plans worked out? Was it something I did? Is it me? Am I not good enough? etc.
Then I started comparing my journey to others around me, which is the worst possible thing you can do. My circumstances at the time really took a tole on me, so feeling tired and defeated I sat and waited, going through all the motions with no emotion, no passion, nothing. When I finally woke up I realized that the reality I had planned for myself wasn’t what the universe had in store for me. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t, and in my case it didn’t! So, what my present moment had contained, I decided to accepted it as if I had chosen it, and I worked with it! This was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
And that’s okay! That’s part of the journey. And even though it was a tough time for me, there was a lesson in all of this and that was to stop putting so much pressure on myself and striving for perfection, because it doesn’t exist. You spend your whole life trying to live up to this model but it’s not even real it’s just a distorted idea of a reality we all make up.
My current circumstances may not be dramatically different but my mindset is and that makes all the difference.
Approach your journey with an open mind and do not compare your journey to others. The differences in our journey is what make us and them (our journey) special.
So, stop and get to work, because there is something magical upon the horizon for you.